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A brainstorming sheet from the March 22 meeting.

Refined List of Adult Behaviors Based on the Core Values

May 16, 2018

At the May 16 PTO General Meeting, attendees used the brainstormed list of behaviors from the March 22 meeting (see below) to create shorter lists of adult behaviors aligned with our Core Values.  These lists are below.

At a fall PTO meeting we will present norms based on these lists for a PTO vote.  Thank you to everyone who has participated in this process of reflection and action about our Core Values.

We are PRESENT when we:

  • Have open inclusive forums for new ideas.
  • Come more to face-to-face meetings.
  • Participate in the PTO. Offer a thoughtful opinion.
  • Listen fully and reflect before responding.

We are SAFE when we:

  • Approach a situation with an open mind and assuming best intent.
  • Be kind with words in emails os people can feel safe and not threatened.
  • Consider our body language during face-to-face discussions. 

We are KIND when we:

  • Talk to others with carefully chosen words and not out of spite and anger.
  • Always start from a place of assuming good intentions.

We are RESPONSIBLE when we:

  • Show ethical behavior.
  • Volunteer with the kids’ best interest in mind.
  • Show personal accountability by choosing our words carefully and keeping a positive attitude.
  • Accurately and timely communicate with all school PTO members.

We are RESPECTFUL when we:

  • Respect others time.  We are all busy and we are all doing the best we can on a particular day in that particular moment.
  • Actively listen to all ideas and respond to them respectfully.
  • Try to understand the other’s opinion.
  • Show empathy.

 

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What would it look like if adults followed the Birch Meadow Core Values?

Brainstorm from a PTO  General Meeting on March 22, 2018.

 

PRESENT

  • Come to meetings (suggest different times if the existing times don’t work for you).
  • Listening.
  • More face to face meetings and open discussions.
  • Participate, just don’t criticize.
  • Participate in PTO! Offer thoughtful opinion.
  • Have open forums for new ideas.
  • Listen fully. Reflect before responding.
  • Avoiding bringing up past disagreements, conflicts especially if not directly related to the present.
  • Active listening.  Ask questions – be present!
  • Be inclusive.

 

SAFE

  • Giving answers to problem.
  • Follow rules that are expected of all Birch Meadow parents.
  • Make everyone feel welcome.
  • Maintain confidentiality.
  • Approach a situation assuming best intent.
  • Explain your intention.
  • Able to speak and have a voice.
  • Body language during face to face.
  • Be kind with words in an email so that people feel safe and not threatened.
  • No texting or talking on phone while driving around school.
  • Stop parking in the teachers’ lot.

 

KIND

  • Giving compliments.
  • Providing encouragement.
  • Talk to others with carefully chosen words and not out of spite and anger.
  • Always start from a place of assuming good intentions.
  • Before saying something negative, pause a moment and put yourself in that person’s shoes.  There are probably reasons for why things are done.
  • We are all neighbors, friends, and parents.  Positive, kind communication should be attempted.
  • Use gentle words.
  • Say “good morning or hello” even if you don’t know someone.
  • Don’t forget your manners.  Say please and thank you.
  • Listen to your fellow parents.
  • Birch Meadow hosts great “inclusive” programs for kids with special needs.  We need to do a better job to feel included.  That teaches your children kindness.
  • Asking for feedback.
  • Say a genuine thank you for someone’s contribution.

 

RESPONSIBLE

 

  • Resolving disagreements.
  • Offer to help/volunteer.
  • Be accountable for your attitude.  The best way to support your child is to have a positive relationship with the school.
  • Communicate all necessary information to everyone in a timely way.
  • Mirror the behavior you expect from your child.
  • Walk the walk as well as talk the talk.
  • Make an effort and make time to volunteer in a way that works for you.
  • Doing what is in the KIDS best interest.
  • Performing the volunteer work ethically.
  • Not gossiping and spreading playground rumors, but actually sitting down and having the face to to face to understand.

 

RESPECTFUL

 

  • The PTO was voted in via a proper process.  You delegate your vote to them to make decisions on your behalf.  Don’t criticize.
  • Not to disparage the PTO.  They are volunteers doing a job no one else offered to do.
  • Do not criticize or second guess decisions made by the board if you don’t attend or vote.
  • Listen to all ideas and respond to them respectfully.
  • Say hello to each other on the playground.  PTO don’t isolate yourselves.
  • Think about the point of view of the other person.
  • Avoiding “don’t tell anyone, but ______ said/did ________.
  • We are all volunteers doing our best for our children.
  • Respect people’s time.  We are all busy and we are all doing the best we can on that particular day in that moment of time.
  • Acknowledge other’s feelings.
  • Don’t start conversations defensively.
  • Listen openly to another person’s opinion even if you don’t agree with it.
  • Eye contact.  Listening to others.
  • Validating thoughts/feelings communicated so people feel heard (even if you disagree).
  • Listening to other’s opinions with an open mind.
  • Every other car turning onto Arthur B Lord and into drive at drop off.
  • Treating all as equals.
  • Don’t say anything in an email you wouldn’t say in person.
  • Not talking behind other’s backs.
  • Listen to other’s thoughts and ideas and be open to differences.
  • Try to understand an opposite opinion.
  • Presume positive intentions in PTO related work.
  • Give air time to all invested parties on contested issues.

 

Results of a brainstorm from our March 22 PTO General Meeting.  What would it look like if the adults in the Birch Meadow community acted in alignment with the school Core Values?
Results of a brainstorm from our March 22 PTO General Meeting. What would it look like if the adults in the Birch Meadow community acted in alignment with the school Core Values?
When we are Safe, the adults will....
When we are Safe, the adults will....
Kindness in adults will look like....
Kindness in adults will look like....
We are Responsible when we...
We are Responsible when we...
Finally, we can be Respectful by...
Finally, we can be Respectful by...
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